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I recently read an article titled ” please stop telling my child that her sibling is her half sister”. And it struck me to my core. It struck something in me that I have been feeling for a very long time, and haven’t always found the right way to put it into words.

Yes! This also applies to people saying “cousins” or “she’s actually her aunt”. Or, “he isn’t his biological father”

Did you ever grow up with a best friend that was so close to the family you called them a sister/brother? What makes you think that concept cannot be applied in our household?

My kids are siblings. Full, undeniably, strong, siblings. Being raised by two parents who love them unconditionally. It doesn’t matter who biologically participated in bringing them into existence. I am a mother of five children. I am raising five children who think of each other as siblings. Even my three year old who KNOWS her sister has a mother that is not me, she does not for a second question the fact that she is in fact HER SISTER.

When you, weather you are a stranger, or someone in our lives, feel the need to “make corrections” all it does is send mixed signals to our children. It makes them question weather or not they are actually where they are supposed to be. It makes them question their own feelings. They worry about disappointing others by “feeling” the way they do about our family.

So next time, please stop yourself. If the lady at the check out line calls me “her mother”, there is no valid reason to correct her and say I am anything else. When people ask, “are they twins?” We often say “yes“ and have a good laugh. Our family dynamic is what makes our family so strong. We wouldn’t want it any other way, and neither should you.