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So often, moving on suggests that you are trying to lessen the existence of that person. However, that is not always the case. There has to be a world where someone can move on, and be allowed to live their life without it being construed as belittling the fact that there was once somebody else there in that place.

More specifically death.

When a loved one dies it is not easy on anyone involved. Everyone reacts differently, has different times in which they heal, and some never heal completely.

One of the things that seems to plague us the most in our own healing process is the fact that we spend so much energy trying to do what is right for someone else’s process, we neglect our own.

I believe the goal of any grieving person is to make sure their loved one is not forgotten. What happens too often is the people who are living get caught in the crosshairs. Sometimes, the act of trying so hard to make sure the person you’re greeting is not forgotten, you forget the people that are living. You neglect what is best for them and for their healing process, while being so focused on your own.

I believe not a single person who is grieving is trying to forget the person they’re grieving or make anyone else forget. Allowing yourself to live is not forgetting.